This has been a rather large topic of discussion between Jace and I. We are not drinkers. Sure, the occasional glass of wine with a nice meal or while unwinding from a rough day; a hearty ale when we go to Oktoberfest. We are not total teetotalers but we are aged enough (and grew up in WI; the "beast" has been a part of our lives since.....4!) to realize that our livers have been shot since we were of legal drinking age; that hang-overs suck SO HARD, that upchucking booze is highly less fun the tossing it back. I also know that I have alcoholics crawling all over both sides of my family; that a Walker girl is trained to never say no to a free drink; that when I get going, I forget my limit; that I HATE getting sick! So I just quit.
Jace chooses not to drink due to his bodybuilding - it just makes him feel like crap. In fact - it makes us both feel like shit.
So how do we have a wedding without booze?
This may not seem like a "problem" to most people but for us; for me, it is. Our guest list is small and the majority of the people we are inviting are not hard core drinkers by any means. There are a few though that can't seem to make it though anything without a beer in their hand. :/
My family - my bio dads side - is know for their spectacular wedding throw downs. And funerals, birthday parties, holidays, church.........
I DO NOT WANT DRAMA!
I have already combated this problem by making sure the guests are people that are going to be there for us. Not for any other reason then to help us celebrate the day. It sucks that my family has to be split up - certain people are like oil and water and I had to make a lot of hard decisions - which is not fair. You would think that adults could act human for one day..........you would think.
So I basically had to choose the "best behaved" from my family. Let me tell you - that is such a weird flipping way to choose guests; like I'm inviting dogs! So for those family members that see this and don't get a invite - I'm sorry. But I was worried that you might soil the carpet and punch granny in the face. Maybe next time.
So - did we want a dry wedding? No! I know at some point this lass is gonna need a drink. A stiff one. It is only inevitable. Do we want kegs? NO! The wedding is going to be outdoors in the wilderness - with bears and wolves (no lie!) and I do not feel like having my reception turn into a episode of "When Drunks Poke Bears With Sticks." Nor do I feel like wrangling drunks the whole evening. Plus - there is going to be kids. I cannot in good conscious let people (especially with kiddos) drink and drive and since there is not a hotel/motel for 20 miles; there needs to be a limit on liquor. I'm sure that my parents don't want 40 people passed out in the back yard the next morning.
So we decided that we were going to get a few dozen or so of our favorite local (http://www.autumnharvestwinery.com/wines.html) wines and that is that. For the guest that don't drink wine or at all - there will be a multitude of drinks - Punch, non-alcoholic mojitos, mint juleps, H2O. If they do not like the options - there is a country bar down the road. I'll just ask that they do not return.
Walker weddings are normally dramatic and someone (usually me) ends up crying; another bleeding; someone goes missing......not this time.
No chaos. No fighting. No drama. I just want a day for Jace and I surrounded by the people that love and support this. Alcohol is not needed.
So just bring yourselves to the wedding and lets us worry about everything else! Trust me - you won't need alcohol to have a good time! <3
Is there anyone else that is having a dry wedding or has to deal with a lot of the issue we have to; would love to hear alternate ideas on what I can do to appease the drinkers in my crowd without having to sauce them up!
Hanie
This may not seem like a "problem" to most people but for us; for me, it is. Our guest list is small and the majority of the people we are inviting are not hard core drinkers by any means. There are a few though that can't seem to make it though anything without a beer in their hand. :/
My family - my bio dads side - is know for their spectacular wedding throw downs. And funerals, birthday parties, holidays, church.........
I DO NOT WANT DRAMA!
I have already combated this problem by making sure the guests are people that are going to be there for us. Not for any other reason then to help us celebrate the day. It sucks that my family has to be split up - certain people are like oil and water and I had to make a lot of hard decisions - which is not fair. You would think that adults could act human for one day..........you would think.
So I basically had to choose the "best behaved" from my family. Let me tell you - that is such a weird flipping way to choose guests; like I'm inviting dogs! So for those family members that see this and don't get a invite - I'm sorry. But I was worried that you might soil the carpet and punch granny in the face. Maybe next time.
So - did we want a dry wedding? No! I know at some point this lass is gonna need a drink. A stiff one. It is only inevitable. Do we want kegs? NO! The wedding is going to be outdoors in the wilderness - with bears and wolves (no lie!) and I do not feel like having my reception turn into a episode of "When Drunks Poke Bears With Sticks." Nor do I feel like wrangling drunks the whole evening. Plus - there is going to be kids. I cannot in good conscious let people (especially with kiddos) drink and drive and since there is not a hotel/motel for 20 miles; there needs to be a limit on liquor. I'm sure that my parents don't want 40 people passed out in the back yard the next morning.
So we decided that we were going to get a few dozen or so of our favorite local (http://www.autumnharvestwinery.com/wines.html) wines and that is that. For the guest that don't drink wine or at all - there will be a multitude of drinks - Punch, non-alcoholic mojitos, mint juleps, H2O. If they do not like the options - there is a country bar down the road. I'll just ask that they do not return.
Walker weddings are normally dramatic and someone (usually me) ends up crying; another bleeding; someone goes missing......not this time.
No chaos. No fighting. No drama. I just want a day for Jace and I surrounded by the people that love and support this. Alcohol is not needed.
So just bring yourselves to the wedding and lets us worry about everything else! Trust me - you won't need alcohol to have a good time! <3
Is there anyone else that is having a dry wedding or has to deal with a lot of the issue we have to; would love to hear alternate ideas on what I can do to appease the drinkers in my crowd without having to sauce them up!
Hanie
